Culture, ethnicity and race are terms that we often confuse and think mean the same thing, but they are actually different Race matters, and in families like mine where we are more than one race, or raising children of color or different ethnic backgrounds, we have to learn to talk about Race. Or parents are not going to be able to learn and help their children learn how to feel good about who they are, and understand that they dont have to be victims to racism. For perhaps the first time, we get a front-row viewing of what it feels like to be caught in between fatherhood and divorce; being culturally rudderless and constantly subjected to cultural segregation; love and letting go: acceptance and denial, and everything in between. In a brutally honest narrative, the author takes us on a mentally stimulating cultural journey with all the trappings and magic of a travelogue, penned with unintended mystery and suspense, encapsulated in self-flagellating humour. Our experiences be similar but are different. I am interested in finding a common neural code for similar conscious experiences in different individuals with different ethnic backgrounds.